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What Do You Want?

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Lucy and Canaan are gone to Kiev for the day to drop off Lucy's parents at the airport. So Max and I spent half the day yesterday together and will spend all day together today. I really enjoy times when I can just hang out and play with my boys.

This morning we woke up and I wanted to spend some time checking email and news. So the following conversation took place:

Me: Max, do you want to watch something?
Max: No. 

Me: Do you want to eat breakfast?
Max: No.

Me: Do you want to play cars?
Max: No.

Me: Max, what do you want?
Max: I want Daddy. 

I share this not because it's a good story, but because I tend to learn a lot of lessons through moments like this. I learn some things about parenting. I learn some things about my relationship with God. So I'm going to spend a bit of time dwelling on those things today.

One Shepherd

This passage of scripture has been on my mind lately. It just brings up so many connections to what Jesus had to say. It makes me think of a lot of stuff from our own day. It challenges me in how I relate to others. Just too many thoughts to write down and share. So I just wanted to share this challenging passage with you all and see what thoughts some of you may have.

The word of the Lord came to me (Ezekiel): "Son of man, prophesy against the shepherds of Israel; prophesy and say to them: 'This is what the Sovereign Lord says: Woe to you shepherds of Israel who only take care of yourselves! Should not shepherds take care of the flock? You eat the curds, clothe yourselves with the wool and slaughter the choice animals, but you do not take care of the flock. You have not strengthened the weak or healed the sick or bound up the injured. You have not brought back the strays or searched for the lost. You have ruled them harshly and brutally. So they were scattered because there was no shepherd, and when they were scattered they became food for all the wild animals. My sheep wandered over all the mountains and on every high hill. They were scattered over the whole earth, and no one searched or looked for them.

"'Therefore, you shepherds, hear the word of the Lord: As surely as I live, declares the Sovereign Lord, because my flock lacks a shepherd and so has been plundered and has become food for all the wild animals, and because my shepherds did not search for my flock but cared for themselves rather than for my flock, therefore, you shepherds, hear the word of the Lord: This is what the Sovereign Lord says: I am against the shepherds and will hold them accountable for my flock. I will remove them from tending the flock so that the shepherds can no longer feed themselves. I will rescue my flock from their mouths, and it will no longer be food for them.

"'For this is what the Sovereign Lord says: I myself will search for my sheep and look after them. As a shepherd looks after his scattered flock when he is with them, so will I look after my sheep. I will rescue them from all the places where they were scattered on a day of clouds and darkness. I will bring them out from the nations and gather them from the countries, and I will bring them into their own land. I will pasture them on the mountains of Israel, in the ravines and in all the settlements in the land. I will tend them in a good pasture, and the mountain heights of Israel will be their grazing land. There they will lie down in good grazing land, and there they will feed in a rich pasture on the mountains of Israel. I myself will tend my sheep and have them lie down, declares the Sovereign Lord. I will search for the lost and bring back the strays. I will bind up the injured and strengthen the weak, but the sleek and the strong I will destroy. I will shepherd the flock with justice.

"'As for you, my flock, this is what the Sovereign Lord says: I will judge between one sheep and another, and between rams and goats. Is it not enough for you to feed on the good pasture? Must you also trample the rest of your pasture with your feet? Is it not enough for you to drink clear water? Must you also muddy the rest with your feet? Must my flock feed on what you have trampled and drink what you have muddied with your feet?

"'Therefore this is what the Sovereign Lord says to them: See, I myself will judge between the fat sheep and the lean sheep. Because you shove with flank and shoulder, butting all the weak sheep with your horns until you have driven them away, I will save my flock, and they will no longer be plundered. I will judge between one sheep and another. I will place over them one shepherd, my servant David, and he will tend them; he will tend them and be their shepherd. I the Lord will be their God, and my servant David will be prince among them. I the Lord have spoken.

"'I will make a covenant of peace with them and rid the land of savage beasts so that they may live in the wilderness and sleep in the forests in safety. I will make them and the places surrounding my hill a blessing. I will send down showers in season; there will be showers of blessing. The trees will yield their fruit and the ground will yield its crops; the people will be secure in their land. They will know that I am the Lord, when I break the bars of their yoke and rescue them from the hands of those who enslaved them. They will no longer be plundered by the nations, nor will wild animals devour them. They will live in safety, and no one will make them afraid. I will provide for them a land renowned for its crops, and they will no longer be victims of famine in the land or bear the scorn of the nations. Then they will know that I, the Lord their God, am with them and that they, the Israelites, are my people, declares the Sovereign Lord. You are my sheep, the sheep of my pasture, and I am your God, declares the Sovereign Lord.'"

English Christmas Party

For a long time now our team has been leading English studies each week. The purpose of these groups is two-fold: 1) to help those who attend improve their English, and 2) to teach God's word. 

Tonight our team hosted a combined English event to celebrate Christmas. We had lots of great food, desserts, games, and conversation. 

At the end of the night we sang "Joy to the World" in English. Afterwards I had the opportunity to talk about God's love for all of us and how that love is the reason why Jesus came to earth. 

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"King of the Jews"

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Yesterday I began reading the Gospel as presented by Matthew. It was interesting to me when I got to the point in the narrative where Herod the Great is told by Magi from the east that the King of the Jews had been born (they were looking for him because they saw his star). 

Herod's response has always been interesting to me. It says he was disturbed and then after some time he plots to have this newborn king killed. Wow! What was it about a baby being born that would invoke such a response? 

A couple of things that I have learned recently has helped to shed some light on this question. 

First, Herod the Great was given the title "King of the Jews" by the Roman senate. You see, Herod was about 70 years old when Jesus was born and had been King of the Jews for about 30 years. Surely during all this time he had heard the prophesies of a future King of the Jews. Though he was already old, and even close to his own death bed, he did not welcome the coming of the one who would remove him from his throne (one which he fought hard to win). And so he had countless infants killed in his unsuccessful attempt to keep his throne. 

So a new King of the Jews was born. The old King died when the new King was just a baby. 

Also interesting is the charge that hung above Jesus at His crucifixion: 

"this is jesus, the king of the jews." 

Monthly Combined Assembly

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As you may know, our Sunday assemblies usually meet in various apartments across town. However, beginning May 1 of this year (2011) we hosted our first "Combined Assembly" and have had one every month since. This special Sunday assembly is designed to allow the various congregations of the church of Christ in Kharkov to gather in one location. While our congregations fund and plan the assembly, we invite men from all the other congregations to take part in the assembly. 

Each month we have rented a room in the center of town for our assemblies. Just this last month we were moved into another (smaller) room at the same location. While this was at first a frustration, it has turned out to be a better option for us. It is both more cozy, has a smaller adjoining room where the kids can have class, and is half the cost. 

In preparation for each month's assembly we have also printed up fliers that we can hand out on the street in order to invite strangers to gather together with us. Since May several thousand fliers have been distributed throughout Kharkov. In addition to fliers we have also advertised online and invited all of our friends. Since May we have had only one person attend as a result of flier distribution, and he doesn't even live in Kharkov. However, we usually have a decent turn-out from our friends. 

One of the special things that we do each month is to take up a contribution and give all of it away to those in need. So far these are the things to which we have given:

1. Earthquake relief in Japan,
2. A Christian rehab center in Ukraine,
3. A hospital for babies who have been taken away from their parents (diapers and other supplies were bought with the contribution),
4. To a friend from Kharkov who had emergency brain surgery because of a tumor,
5. To the Ukrainian Bible Institute (this money goes to supplement the support of a student),
6. To an orphanage just outside of Kharkov for those with physical and mental disabilities (20 pairs of shoes and sports equipment were purchased). 

This month we will be collecting money to give to a volunteer organization here in Kharkov that works primarily with orphans and children's hospitals. 

Over the past six months we, together with all the congregation in Kharkov, have collected around $1800 and have given every penny away. 

Open House

Several months ago I had an idea to begin a Tuesday evening 'Open House' at our apartment from 5 to 8 pm. The way I envisioned this going was that people would feel free to come and go. During the time slot we could do anything, just as long as it was together. We could play games, talk, sing songs, drink tea together, etc. The goal of beginning this was simply to encourage community life together. Anybody is welcome to come!

After beginning this it quickly turned into a weekly game night, since most people enjoy playing games. Since opening up our house on Tuesday nights we have had a lot of people come over and play games with us. This is such a fun time for everyone and is usually well attended. 

Just yesterday we gathered together again, but this time we took the opportunity to celebrate Onome's birthday together. Onome is a Christian brother from Nigeria who has been in Ukraine for about a year. He is studying in a medical university. He is an awesome guy and a leading figure in our English language congregation. 


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The Prodigal Daughter

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Here is a story that illustrates my last post well. It is an excerpt from Philip Yancey's "What So Amazing About Grace." If you haven't read this book, I recommend that you do. As you read this, ask yourself if this is the type of God you picture when you think of Him. 

Yancey, Philip (2008-09-02). What's So Amazing About Grace? (Kindle Locations 626-670). Zondervan. Kindle Edition. 

“A young girl grows up on a cherry orchard just above Traverse City, Michigan. Her parents, a bit old-fashioned, tend to over-react to her nose ring, the music she listens to, and the length of her skirts. They ground her a few times, and she seethes inside. ‘I hate you!’ she screams at her father when he knocks on the door of her room after an argument, and that night she acts on a plan she has mentally rehearsed scores of times. She runs away.

She has visited Detroit only once before, on a bus trip with her church youth group to watch the Tigers play. Because newspapers in Traverse City report in lurid detail the gangs, the drugs, and the violence in downtown Detroit, she concludes that is probably the last place her parents will look for her. California, maybe, or Florida, but not Detroit.

Her second day there she meets a man who drives the biggest car she’s ever seen. He offers her a ride, buys her lunch, arranges a place for her to stay. He gives her some pills that make her feel better than she’s ever felt before. She was right all along, she decides: her parents were keeping her from all the fun.

The good life continues for a month, two months, a year. The man with the big car –she calls him ‘Boss’– teaches her a few things that men like. Since she’s underage, men pay a premium for her. She lives in a penthouse, and orders room service whenever she wants. Occasionally she thinks about the folks back home, but their lives now seem so boring and provincial that she can hardly believe she grew up there.

She has a brief scare when she sees her picture printed on the back of a milk carton with the headline “Have you seen this child?” But by now she has blond hair, and with all the makeup and body-piercing jewelry she wears, nobody would mistake her for a child. Besides, most of her friends are runaways, and nobody squeals in Detroit.

After a year the first sallow signs of illness appear, and it amazes her how fast the boss turns mean. “These days, we can’t mess around,” he growls, and before she knows it she’s out on the street without a penny to her name. She still turns a couple of tricks a night, but they don’t pay much, and all the money goes to support her habit. When winter blows in she finds herself sleeping on metal grates outside the big department stores. “Sleeping” is the wrong word – a teenage girl at night in downtown Detroit can never relax her guard. Dark bands circle her eyes. Her cough worsens.

One night as she lies awake listening for footsteps, all of a sudden everything about her life looks different. She no longer feels like a woman of the world. She feels like a little girl, lost in a cold and frightening city. She begins to whimper. Her pockets are empty and she’s hungry. She needs a fix. She pulls her legs tight underneath her and shivers under the newspapers she’s piled atop her coat. Something jolts a synapse of memory and a single image fills her mind: of May in Traverse City, when a million cherry trees bloom at once, with her golden retriever dashing through the rows and rows of blossomy trees in chase of a tennis ball.

God, why did I leave, she says to herself, and pain stabs at her heart. My dog back home eats better than I do now. She’s sobbing, and she knows in a flash that more than anything else in the world she wants to go home.

Three straight phone calls, three straight connections with the answering machine. She hangs up without leaving a message the first two times, but the third time she says, “Dad, Mom, it’s me. I was wondering about maybe coming home. I’m catching a bus up your way, and it’ll get there about midnight tomorrow. If you’re not there, well, I guess I’ll just stay on the bus until it hits Canada.”

It takes about seven hours for a bus to make all the stops between Detroit and Traverse City, and during that time she realizes the flaws in her plan. What if her parents are out of town and miss the message? Shouldn’t she have waited another day or so until she could talk to them? And even if they are home, they probably wrote her off as dead long ago. She should have given them some time to overcome the shock.

Her thoughts bounce back and forth between those worries and the speech she is preparing for her father. “Dad, I’m sorry. I know I was wrong. It’s not your fault; it’s all mine. Dad, can you forgive me?” She says the words over and over, her throat tightening even as she rehearses them. She hasn’t apologized to anyone in years.

The bus has been driving with lights on since Bay City. Tiny snowflakes hit the pavement rubbed worn by thousands of tires, and the asphalt steams. She’s forgotten how dark it gets at night out here. A deer darts across the road and the bus swerves. Every so often, a billboard. A sign posting the mileage to Traverse City Oh, God.

When the bus finally rolls into the station, its air brakes hissing in protest, the driver announces in a crackly voice over the microphone, “Fifteen minutes, folks. That’s all we have here.” Fifteen minutes to decide her life. She checks herself in a compact mirror, smooths her hair, and licks the lipstick off her teeth. She looks at the tobacco stains on her fingertips, and wonders if her parents will notice. If they’re there.

She walks into the terminal not knowing what to expect. Not one of the thousand scenes that have played out in her mind prepares her for what she sees. There, in the concrete-walls-and-plastic-chairs bus terminal in Traverse City, Michigan, stands a group of forty brothers and sisters and great-aunts and uncles and cousins and a grandmother and great-grandmother to boot. They’re all wearing goofy party hats and blowing noise-makers, and taped across the entire wall of the terminal is a computer-generated banner that reads “Welcome home!”

Out of the crowd of well-wishers breaks her dad. She stares out through the tears quivering in her eyes like hot mercury and begins the memorized speech, “Dad, I’m sorry. I know…”

He interrupts her. ‘Hush child. We’ve got no time for that. No time for apologies. You’ll be late for the party. A banquet’s waiting for you at home.’”

 

Love and Relationship

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Yesterday I wrote in my blog post about how nothing, I repeat nothing, in all of creation (including you) can separate you from the love of God. This is shown time and again throughout the Bible, both in the Old and New Testaments. God not only loves, but in fact God is love. He showed this love for us by dying in our place, even when we were his enemies. 

I also mentioned yesterday that some people believe that they are indeed able to remove themselves from God's love. While this is a totally unbiblical belief, I think I understand where this thought comes from. What I think these people are wanting to say is that only you can separate yourself from a saving relationship with God. 

In their minds love and relationship are one and the same; there can be no love if there is no relationship. However, if you look at your own relationships and of those around you, it quickly becomes evident that this is not always the case. As you know, I have two sons and I love them more than words can express and we have a good relationship. However, my sons have the free will to decide whether they would like to continue a relationship with me. In fact, they can even make the choice to stop loving me. However, they have no control over my love for them. You see, our relationship can be severed, but that does not mean that love has died. 

This is portrayed very well in one of my favorite parables found in Luke 15 of a son who considers his father dead (though he is still living) and takes his inheritance. He leaves home and wastes all his money on prostitutes and partying. He becomes broke and homeless. The only job he can find is feeding animals that he can't even eat. He gets so hungry that he even considers eating the animals' food. You see, this son severed his relationship with his father. Maybe he even stopped loving his father. However, in his deepest despair, he knows that he can still return to his father and at least be accepted as a slave.

So he gets up and goes home. The welcome he gets is not the welcome he expected. You get the idea that the father has done nothing since the son has left except keeping an eye out for his son to return home. When he finally sees his son, he throws an amazing party to celebrate. Though the son broke off relationship with the father, the father's love never died...not for a second. 

We have all made the choice to sever our relationship with God. Adam and Eve did this in the garden, and we have all followed in their footsteps. We have decided that our ways are more important than God's ways. He consider our wants more valuable than what God wants. Many in the world just flat out hate God and want nothing to do with him. 

Thank God that he did not leave us with no option of returning home to his welcoming arms! Thank God that He will never stop loving us. 

If you are reading this, don't ever forget that God loves you and that will never end. However, God loving you does not mean that you are in a relationship with Him. You have to make the decision to return home.

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I Forget a Lot of Stuff

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The other day after I picked Canaan up from preschool we were riding on the elevator together up to David and Olivia's apartment. We had a good time together taking the metro and walking there, and I told Canaan, "Don't ever forget that I love you." His response to me was, "Dad, I forget a lot of stuff." 

Of course I thought it was funny, but the more I think of his response, the more I see myself in that response. We are told time and again throughout scripture that we are loved by Jesus. He loved us so much that he left his Father's side and became human. He suffered, was rejected, and killed...all out of his deep love for me (and you). On top of this, we are told that nothing in all of creation can separate us from that love. Listen to how the apostle Paul expressed it: 

For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers,neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Did you catch that? NOTHING can separate us from the love of God that is in Jesus. Wow!

However, I find myself quite often forgetting this amazing truth. 

I have even heard people say that the only thing that can separate us from God's love is us. What? Did I miss something? Paul said that NOTHING in all creation (by the way, that's you and me) is able to separate us from that love. It is impossible for God to stop loving you and me. 

I know I will continue to be like Canaan in my relationship with God. I know I will keep learning more about my relationship with God by experiencing my relationship with my own sons. 

Dad, I forget a lot of stuff. Thank you for not forgetting! 

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